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Why It’s Not Too Late to Start a Business

Why It’s Not Too Late to Start a Business

Thinking of starting a business and finally being your own boss? Maybe you’re one step ahead and looking to take your side hustle, full time? Entrepreneurship is one of my favorite topics to cover. Especially when it comes to building an online business. Nowadays, you...

How to change the story you’re telling yourself

How to change the story you’re telling yourself

Many of us carry heavy baggage from our past, defined by a story we've constructed, often filled with shame, blame, and self-limiting beliefs. But the stories we tell ourselves about our past aren't set in stone. They're more like narratives we've crafted over time,...

Why Perfectionism is Holding You Back

Why Perfectionism is Holding You Back

Want to know the secret to my success? I stopped pretending that I had it all together. The more I share my mistakes, my failures, my insecurities, the more people are attracted to me. Why? Because authenticity is magnetic. You don't have to be perfect to do anything;...

How to Stop Attaching a Story

How to Stop Attaching a Story

Before discovering thought work, a lot of my unhappiness came from not understanding my own thoughts and feelings, from not knowing what was going on in my own head. My days often felt kind of aimless, like I never knew what emotions might hit me. As I've worked with...

Long term vs. Short term Goal Setting

Long term vs. Short term Goal Setting

Not big on setting New Year's Resolutions? It’s not your fault. We’ve all set big goals for January 1st only to burn out before the month is over, overwhelmed by having gone all–out. The real problem is, many of us don't know how to set and achieve goals properly, so...

How to Make Your Goals Stick: Ask Yourself This Question

How to Make Your Goals Stick: Ask Yourself This Question

Ever feel like you're caught in a loop of setting goals that don't quite hit the mark? As we gear up for 2024, it's time to rethink our approach to goal-setting. I’m here to help you break that cycle with a game-changing question to reframe your goal setting....

It’s Time to Let Go of the Fear of Wasting Time and Money

It’s Time to Let Go of the Fear of Wasting Time and Money

I've been giving a lot of thought lately to a topic that seems to be a common stumbling block for many of us - the fear of wasting time and money. It's this ever-present cloud that looms over us, questioning every decision we make, especially when it comes to our...

My Three-Step Process for Setting Yourself Up for Success

My Three-Step Process for Setting Yourself Up for Success

Setting ourselves up for success starts with recognizing that we all have strengths and weaknesses. Our strengths tend to be things that we are naturally good at and maybe don’t recognize right off the bat because it’s second nature to us. Instead of downplaying them,...

5 Lessons from my $90K Month

5 Lessons from my $90K Month

This past year has been a whirlwind of growth and change, with respect to my business. Even moreso, the success of my launch of the Quitter Club Annual Membership last month marked a truly eye-opening chapter for me. Yet, my $90k launch merely hints at the deeper...

Learning to Live in the ‘And’

Learning to Live in the ‘And’

Our brains crave certainty, often pushing us into a mindset of either/or, weaving narratives of success or failure, virtue or vice. I’ve noticed this to be the root to many of my clients’ shame or guilt as we work together on their mindset. They’ve convinced...

My Guide to Reacting to the World Around You

My Guide to Reacting to the World Around You

Ever since I started practicing thought work, these past few years have been a fascinating journey of observing the world through a new lens. The pandemic, contentious elections, natural disasters, and recent wars have been a trial by fire as far as putting my thought...

Lessons from Romance Novels on the Pursuit of Joy

Lessons from Romance Novels on the Pursuit of Joy

Do you ever feel ashamed for indulging in the things that bring you joy? You know, those guilty pleasures? It's like we've been conditioned to believe that if something makes us happy, it must be childish or silly. As if there's this unspoken rule that if something...

The Power of Delegation: Doing Less to Achieve More

The Power of Delegation: Doing Less to Achieve More

In our fast-paced, overachieving world, it often feels like we have to do it all to prove our worth. We've been conditioned to believe that our self-worth is tied to our productivity. Today, I am challenging you to take on doing less through the transformative power...

The Real Prize: The Side Effects of Going After Your Goals

The Real Prize: The Side Effects of Going After Your Goals

The journey toward our dreams is often more valuable than the destination. Maybe you’ve set ambitious goals but are wishing for the shortest, easiest path to get there. It's only natural. Who doesn't want their dreams fulfilled as swiftly and smoothly as possible? The...

Manage Fear So You Can Go After What You Really Want

Manage Fear So You Can Go After What You Really Want

Fear is something that affects us all. It's that nagging voice in the back of our minds that asks us, "What if you fail?" or "What if you can't do it?" The key is to confront these fears by answering these questions. What if you do fail, now what? Realizing that we...

How to Stop Arguing with Reality

How to Stop Arguing with Reality

One of the most common ways we get stuck in our lives is by refusing to accept the current reality. We spend an enormous amount of time and mental energy arguing with how things should be. Whether it's our job, our relationships, or even broader societal issues, we...

Are you a Sensitive Striver?

Are you a Sensitive Striver?

Are you currently running yourself into the ground exceeding other’s expectations of yourself at work? Or garnering resentment for the extra asks you agreed to but now regret? On the spectrum of people pleasing and overachieving, some of us are prone to feeling the...

Unlock Your Deepest Desires: Admitting What You Really Want

Unlock Your Deepest Desires: Admitting What You Really Want

You wouldn't get in a car and start driving, hoping you end up at the grocery store. You figure out where you want to go first. Maybe use GPS to map it out. Then you drive there, right? And yet, I meet clients who have quit their jobs, hopped through a few others, or...

What We Actually Do in the Quitter Club

What We Actually Do in the Quitter Club

My clients often come to me with an undeniable wish to quit. To quit feeling stressed, burnt out, unmotivated, and most importantly–lost. What they don’t often realize until we start working together, is that their desire to quit is a double-sided coin. A coin where...

Making Decisions with Purpose

Making Decisions with Purpose

Ever found yourself dreading every step on the path to your goal? You're not alone. If anything, it is a glaring red flag that the goal itself may not be worth following through on. So how do you decide on what decisions, changes, and goals are worth pursuing? And how...

One-Year Building Blocks for Lasting Personal Growth

One-Year Building Blocks for Lasting Personal Growth

We all know the feeling when we get the itch to change our lives: the surge of motivation hits, and we're ready to take on the world. Here's the problem that we typically run into: we dive headfirst into our goals, trying to change everything overnight. But sooner or...

The 6 Essential Steps to Crafting Your Personalized Quit Plan

The 6 Essential Steps to Crafting Your Personalized Quit Plan

Thinking about quitting your job? Is this decision to quit an impulsive one, driven by a mix of emotions and circumstances? Or maybe one you are aiming to plan for? It's completely normal to be plagued by questions such as “Am I making the right choice?" or "What if...

The Power of 90-Day Goals

The Power of 90-Day Goals

When you don’t know how to get from Point A to Point B   Finding a way to set and achieve meaningful goals can feel like an insurmountable challenge. I’m uncovering how you can actually start setting 90-day goals with a strategy that actually empowers you. Use...

Letting Go of Absolutes: Embracing the Messy Middle

Letting Go of Absolutes: Embracing the Messy Middle

When we live our lives in an all-or-nothing thought pattern and define success in one way, we fail to experience success in all other potential aspects. What if parts of us are successes and parts of us are failures?

3 Immediate Steps to Take If You’re Unhappy in Your Career

3 Immediate Steps to Take If You’re Unhappy in Your Career

Feeling stuck in a job that’s draining you? The kind of ‘draining’ that is beyond physical and starting to feel inescapable? If you find yourself unhappy in your career, then you’ve probably thought to yourself, any one of these (if not all): “I don’t know what to do”...

Debunking the Myth of Falling Behind

Debunking the Myth of Falling Behind

Let's talk about the fact that you, my friend, are not behind at all. I don't care how much you want to convince yourself. I don't care about the circumstances in your life that you want to hang yourself up on. I promise you, that's not the truth. The stories you are...

3 Steps to Conquer Post-Quitting Chaos and Quit with Confidence

3 Steps to Conquer Post-Quitting Chaos and Quit with Confidence

We often fall into the trap of believing that quitting is the ultimate solution, the magic ticket to happiness and freedom. We convince ourselves that once we reach that destination, all our worries and anxieties will fade away. We think, “Just a little bit more, and I’ll be there. Then everything will be perfect.”

But guess what? Our brains are wired to seek out the next set of fears, no matter where we are on our journey.

What We Can Learn From The 2008 Recession

What We Can Learn From The 2008 Recession

Ok, a lot of us are freaking out right now. And for good reason. We’re in the midst of an unprecedented global pandemic, the likes of which we’ve never seen in our lifetime. We’re stuck in our houses trying to navigate working remotely, homeschooling our children, and...

If Andrew Luck Can Quit, Then So Can You

If Andrew Luck Can Quit, Then So Can You

Last week, Andrew Luck, the star quarterback for the Indianapolis Colts, made the life-altering decision to step away from the NFL after a seven-year career. If you’re not a big NFL fan, you might not understand the magnitude of his decision. So let’s take a look at...

10 Things I’ve Learned After a Year of Podcasting

10 Things I’ve Learned After a Year of Podcasting

  I can’t believe Lessons From A Quitter is ONE!  This past year has been challenging in the most rewarding way and I can’t thank you enough for coming along this journey with me. Launching the podcast was terrifying, but it has pushed me to grow, adapt, and be...

Why I Quit Being a Lawyer and I Think You Should Too

Why I Quit Being a Lawyer and I Think You Should Too

By Goli Kalkhoran Ok, obviously, the headline is a little dramatic. I’m not here to convince everyone to quit the law. If you love your career, congratulations! I’m genuinely happy for you and so relieved that there are people like you to do this work because it is...

Top 10 Episodes About Lawyers Who Quit

Top 10 Episodes About Lawyers Who Quit

Maybe it's because I used to be a lawyer, but a lot of the guests we have on this podcast also tend to be lawyers who are looking to switch careers. Here is a round up of the top 10 episodes about lawyers who quit to go on to doing some amazing things. Ep.1: How Kaveh...

Help! I hate my job!

Help! I hate my job!

I have a feeling I know why you’re here. Because as much as we all want to feel like we’re unique in our misery, we’re all the same. Your path looked something like this: You were told to get good grades, go to a good school, study hard, get a degree, take on student...

The Best Life Hack: Get Used to Feeling Uncomfortable

The Best Life Hack: Get Used to Feeling Uncomfortable

I know Life Hack articles are all the rage. I wish I could give you the Top 3 Tips to Make Your Life Amazing or the Top 5 Ways To Make You A Millionaire. But, after having fallen for the clickbait one too many times, we all know that those are bullshit. So here is a...

How to Rate and Review a Podcast

How to Rate and Review a Podcast

Let me throw out a hypothetical: You listen to a podcast you love. Let’s just say the podcast is called Lessons from a Quitter. You love it so much you want to let the host know. You love it so much you want everyone else to listen to it too! Well, you’re in luck. A...

My Podcast is Live! And now I want to throw up

My Podcast is Live! And now I want to throw up

Helloooooo World!!

The podcast is live!! So I guess this is happening. I’m equal parts excited out of my mind and terrified to the point of wanting to throw up. I’m assuming that from where you sit it seems silly to be terrified. On the scale of scary things people are going through in this world, putting out a podcast doesn’t even make the scale. I get it. You’re right. Also, maybe stop being such a judgy jerk.

But I can’t shake this little voice in my head. You have one too. I’m certain. The little bully that is screaming at the top of her lungs right now “CODE RED” “CODE RED”. What will people think?! What will they say?! Will they even listen?! We’re panicked.

First, have you ever listened to your own voice on a recording?! I’m sure you’ve heard yourself on a video or something. But take that cringiness and multiply it by 1000. I’m still shocked that people have been talking to me my whole life when I sound like this.

Second, while putting out a podcast isn’t technically scary, putting yourself out there for people to judge really is. It shouldn’t be because, who cares? Right?!
Me!!! That’s who cares. I care. A little too much. I’ve spent my whole life engrossed in what people think of me. A habitual people-pleaser. The idea of someone in a far away land not approving of what I do has stopped me many times before. Sounds silly. I know. I’m working on it. But Rome wasn’t built in a day.

And, yet, here we are. I’m ignoring the yelling for now and putting it out there. Mostly because every time I have pushed past her non-stop yammering, something great has happened.
But, more importantly, because that is the point of this whole podcast! We all have that voice. Some are better at lowering the volume than others but it is a constant hum in the background of our minds. It tries to keep us safe, even if safe means miserable. Don’t try something new because what if you fail?! Don’t show you’re vulnerable because you will look weak! Are you crazy!?! Just do what you’ve always done. Stay in your lane. It’s safe there. Even if you’re dying side.

That voice is what keeps people in careers they hate. When it is unchecked and unchallenged, it creates a level of fear that seems insurmountable. But a funny thing happens when you simply speak the words of that fear into existence. It seems silly. It’s downright crazy.

So here we go. We’re telling her to shut it for now and putting this out there. Hopefully, the stories of all these other incredible people who have learned to ignore their inner critic will inspire you (and me) to do the same.